Numerology for Relationships
A Guide to Birth Numbers
(copyright 2005 Vera Kaikobad)
"The Book of Nature is written in Numbers." ~ Galileo (1564-1642)
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Let’s begin with a couple of typical romantic scenarios. Are you an ambitious, hard-working person who yearns to climb your way up the career ladder, but is dating a lover who complains that you don’t spend enough time with them?
You could be an 8 who is dating a 2.
Are you a sentimental and old-fashioned male who hopes to marry a woman who will delight your family and will be comfortable in the role of wife, mother and homemaker, but always seem to meet vivacious women who want to party but don’t want to settle down just yet?
You could be a 2 who is meeting a lot of 3s, 5s or 9s.
Or maybe you’re an out-going, friendly and likeable girl whose boyfriend is possessive, clingy and gets suspicious if he sees you flirting with other men.
You might be a 6 who is dating a 7 or a 2.
Are you a passionate and romantic woman whose husband is not demonstrative enough for you and tends to forget birthdays and anniversaries?
You could be a 9 who is married to a 4.
Perhaps you’re a loving and sensitive girlfriend who is dating a man who, while charismatic and lovable, seems a tad too immature or distracted to settle down with.
You might be a 7 who is dating a 3.
Numerology, much like its twin sister astrology, is most often used for analyzing the level of compatibility between lovers. Each of us has a Birth Number (the number of our day of birth) and its vibration filters into our choices, habits and desires. Relationships and marriage are often the cornerstones of our lives; our lovers become our ultimate confidants in life. Some partners may make great boyfriends or girlfriends, but curiously incompatible spouses. In a situation like that, one might say: “Everything was great when we were dating, and we enjoyed each other’s company a lot, but things just went downhill after we got married. I guess we both changed somehow.”
Some lovers may click intellectually or sexually with us, but fail to connect emotionally to our hearts. Anyone who has experienced this situation might say: “We’ve always had great conversations and enjoyed each other’s sense of humor. We even had the same tastes and hobbies. But something was always missing. It’s like we clicked but on only one level.” In the same way, some people born by certain Birth Numbers may make ideal best friends but unsuitable soul mates; the power of attraction between the numbers works differently for each couple. Knowing which Birth Numbers are the most likely to succeed in a relationship or marriage with you can save you emotional energy and sometimes, the best years of your life. Well-informed choices are the key to success in love.
The numerological family is made up of nine numbers, and they are mystical, beautiful and perfect. Your personal Birth Number gives you the opportunity to unravel the numeric or planetary energy of your personality and gives you a clear karmic life direction. If you’re in love or seek more “unspoken” information (things they’d never tell you about themselves) about a friend, loved one or potential spouse, numerology gives you a sneak peek into their emotional nature and motivations. In this book, you will be working with your day of birth (not the entire birth date), or your lover’s day of birth. Our Birth Number can help us in cracking the code as to why we behave the way we do, why we make the choices we make and what draws us to pick certain types of individuals as our life-partners.
The simplicity of numerology gives you the chance to:
1). Find out which Birth Numbers will make the best, long-term love match for you and why
2). Recognize which career fields suit you best according to your Birth Number
3). Understand which problems might surface with which Birth Numbers in your most important relationships and what to do to resolve them quickly
4). Use the power of the Birth Number that you were born with, so that you can experience maximum self-understanding
So, what is a Birth Number?
Your Birth Number is a sacred, cosmic key to your numeric personality as seen through the lens of the planet that energizes that Birth Number and influences it. It is an invaluable tool with which to discover your karmic life direction. Your Birth Number never changes and will be your personality signature your whole life. Be that as it may, numerology frees you and helps you to incorporate many useful qualities into your personality that happen to be the signature traits of other Birth Numbers.
Your Birth Number is derived by adding up the numbers in your day (not the month or year) of birth until only one single digit is left.
For example: if you were born on the 3rd of May, your Birth Number is 3.
If you’re in your teens, twenties or thirties, numerology will have a specific appeal for you; in the younger age bracket, you will most likely use it for compatibility purposes with a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you’re in your forties or fifties and are knowledgeable about how to adapt to life, numerology will draw you differently; you may use it to understand your spouse, children and colleagues, but you will also use it to understand your deeper, mature self that has seen the myriad shades of life. If you’re above the honored age of fifty, and have a great reservoir of life-wisdom to fall back on, numerology will help you connect to your real karmic life path and bring you greater connectivity with your family, spouse, loved ones and friends.
The Birth Number of each person is often a very accurate guide to digging deep within the personality, the inner needs and desires of ourselves, and those people whom we are interested in or concerned about. Astrology and horoscope reading have finally achieved worldwide appeal, but knowing our astrological Sun sign (Aries, Taurus, Gemini and so forth) without knowing our numerological Birth Number can deprive us of understanding the total package of our real personalities. Through accurate number-reading, we can view ourselves, our lovers, spouses, friends and families through a much broader, more authentic lens. This often leads to more compatible and smoother flowing relationships with the least amount of upheaval and emotional disruption between us and those whom we care about the most.
What happens when the Birth Numbers fall in love?
Let’s check out some Birth Number romantic matches and see how the Birth Numbers are likely to fare in real-life relationships.
Example 1: If a 2 male (the Birth Number 2 is Moon-ruled) is dating a 9 female (the Birth Number 9 is Mars-ruled), he may have to learn to adapt to his beautiful Mars-ruled 9 girlfriend’s need to shake up and energize certain parts of her relationship with him in order to feel more alive and involved. Excitement, if not readily available in their relationship, will be actively sought out by her. The 9 female is dynamic, demonstrative and outspoken. Her sense of right and wrong is never concealed and her opinions will rise to her lips in seconds. The truth-seeking and powerful 9 female needs a cause to fight for and will not feel comfortable with a boyfriend who competes with her or disagrees with her over small things; she needs to be trusted to make the right decisions and always given a second chance if her impulsive nature gets the better of her. The 9 female needs a lover who is completely involved in the relationship, honest about his feelings and able to handle her slightly explosive but very protective and loving nature without patronizing her.
The Moon-ruled 2 male is a strong man, but may have a gentle, highly sensitive side to his personality. The 9 female’s action-oriented nature contrasts nicely with his emotion-oriented persona; he can cool her off emotionally, as the Moon exudes a cooling vibration and Mars gives off a hot energy. The strength-seeking 2 male may subconsciously seek the protection or security that the 9 female needs to give to loved ones, but he also needs to spend his life with a cool-tempered and gentle partner who won’t push him or pressure him. The 9 female is usually passionate and dominant, and the 2 male may not be able to take too much domination from his lover. His nature is to compromise and emote his way through problems, while the 9 female uses a direct and quick approach to resolving issues. The Mars-ruled 9 female must not eclipse her boyfriend’s masculinity by taking too much power away from him, while the Moon-ruled 2 male may need to stand up and be heard when appropriate; he must provide honest feedback when his 9 lover asks him how he feels, instead of saying “Why don’t you handle it, dear?”. If the 2 male can learn to not take everything the 9 female says or does too seriously, and if the 9 female can learn to tone down her naturally assertive nature, this pair could be quite a promising match.
Example 2: If a 7 female (the Birth Number 7 is ruled by Neptune) is dating a 3 male (the Birth Number 3 is ruled by Jupiter), she may have to learn to adapt to her 3 boyfriend’s expressive and active nature early on in the relationship. Both numbers are strong, so compromises will have to come from both sides for best results. The friendly 3 male is a people-person and loves his friends more than life itself. The attractive 7 female is artistic in her leisure moments, powerful and assertive at work, but at heart she is an emotional entity and needs to feel very secure and safe within any romantic connection. The 3 male may be impulsive in love, but he may take longer to decide if marriage is right for him. At some point in time, the 7 female will want her own family, home and spouse to enjoy. The security-seeking 7 female may need assurances of faithfulness and exclusivity early on in their relationship, which may make the 3 man feel a bit hemmed in. The 7 female is also very tuned in to securing a spouse who is financially mature; Neptune rules the great oceans, which harbor uncountable treasures deep in their womb. Therefore the 7 woman will feel more comfortable in tying the knot with a man who knows how to secure his assets and bring her complete monetary security. The charismatic 3 male may not even dream about the money factor when love is concerned. He must be careful and not misunderstand his loving 7 girlfriend’s need for security, because financial security brings her emotional stability.
The outspoken 3 man will search for an exciting and fun-loving partner who can freely grant him the full measure of freedom he needs to live his life; binding up the 3 male by using emotions against him will send him running. Therefore, the 7 female must never over-emotionalize any issue in order to gain his attention. She may also have to watch her possessiveness, which could hurt their love. The 3 male must bear in mind that he must provide enough attention and involvement in their relationship to keep the 7 girlfriend’s insecurities at bay. Any verbal abruptness or detachment will make the 7 female emotional and then suspicious. Therefore both of them should understand what the other must have to be happy and then try their best to provide it. The 7 female must not become secretive and hide her feelings from the 3 male, but neither should she overwhelm him with her emotions when he is unable to provide adequate attention to her. The 3 male must not become too detached in his relationship; he must learn to balance the amount of time his friends and outside projects take up with the amount of time his 7 lover needs. A little more sensitivity on his part and a little less sensitivity on her part, will allow them be quite happy with each other for many years.
Each Birth Number will have different needs in a relationship, and each Birth Number will demonstrate different traits in a marriage. Learning about these traits and needs ahead of time can help to figure out what to expect, and how to deliver the amount of attention, friendship and understanding that each relationship may require.
Is your Birth Number a perfect match with your lover’s?
The 1 male is handsome and confident; will he click emotionally with the beautiful 6 female? The 2 girlfriend is emotional and loving; will the passionate 9 boyfriend bring her the security she craves? The 7 husband is sensitive and emotional; is the efficient 8 wife the right match for him? Numerology is profoundly simple and simply profound. Gain instant insights into any relationship, past or present and understand the deepest emotional needs of your lover. Relationships are a 24/7 testing ground for compatibility; use the power of attraction between the numbers to your advantage.
Is your boyfriend husband material? Will your girlfriend make a compatible wife? Find out what each Birth Number really needs and provides in a relationship
Is the 3 male just like the 3 female? Experience the male and female personality of each Birth Number in one of 18 comprehensive, gender-specific profiles
Does action-hero Mars affect your personality? Or does jolly Jupiter control your attitude? Learn how the planets affect you through your Birth Number
Is the Pisces 6 girlfriend as marriage-minded as the Virgo 6 female? See how your Birth Number blends its energy with your astrological Sun sign in one of 108 different Sun sign and Birth Number profiles
Which Birth Numbers are the most passionate? Which ones have hot tempers? Check out the FAQs about the numerological Birth Numbers
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